Are you experiencing verbal assaults such as belittling, criticizing, name-calling, screaming, threatening, excessive blaming, shaming, using sarcasm in a cutting way, or expressing disgust towards the person. This kind of abuse is extremely damaging to a person’s self-esteem and self-image.
Maybe there are abusive expectations: Unreasonable demands such as demanding a partner’s undivided attention or requiring a partner to spend all of his or her time with your are some examples of abusive expectations
Is there emotional blackmailing? When one partner coerces the other into doing what he wants by playing on his partner’s fear, guilt, or compassion. An example would be threatening to end a relationship if he doesn’t get what he wants and one partner rejecting or distancing herself from her partner until he gives in to her demands.
What about Gaslighting? Partner may continually deny that certain events occurred or that he or she said something you both know was said, or he or she may insinuate that you are exaggerating or lying. They attempt to make their partner doubt their perceptions, memory and sanity.
What should you do?
1. Have a serious discussion. Sit down with your partner and have a talk about the fact the he/she is being inappropriate or disrespectful.
2. Call him or her out on the behavior or attitude the next time the abuse takes place. Try this approach and confront your partner about the abusive behavior. This is a good approach for couples who have grown distant.
3. Seek couples counseling.
(Reference: “The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing” by Beverly Engel
Have you been thinking about whether or not you have an issue with alcohol?
Do you enjoy a drink now and then when socializing with friends and family? There might be times when you are drinking out of habit and not really thinking about how much you are consuming. Drinking can be beneficial or harmful, it all depends on your age, health and knowing how much is too much. If you come to the conclusion that you need to cut down, there are strategies and tools that you can use to help yourself. Take a look at this article from the National Institute of Health and see how your drinking habits might be affecting your health.
Women and Drinking
Women’s drinking patterns are different from men’s when it comes to how much and how often they drink. Women’s bodies react differently to alcohol than men’s. That means women face particular health risks from alcohol.
Why Women face higher risks than men:
Research shows that women start to have alcohol-related problems at lower drinking levels than men. One reason is that, on average, women weigh less than men. Also, alcohol resides predominantly in body water, and pound for pound, women have less water in their bodies than men do. So after a man and woman of the same weight drink the same amount of alcohol, the woman’s blood alcohol concentration will tend to be higher, putting her at greater risk for harm.
Health risks for women can include:
• Liver Damage – Women who drink are more likely to develop liver inflammation than men.
• Heart Disease – Women are more susceptible to alcohol-related heart disease than men.
• Breast Cancer – Women who have about one drink per day also have an increased chance of developing breast cancer compared to women who do not drink at all.
• Pregnancy – Any drinking during pregnancy is risky. Heavy drinking can put a fetus at increased risk for learning, behavioral, and other problems.